Optimise your phone use: 11 simple strategies to reclaim your time, energy and attention

Optimise phone use

Your phone is like a bag of artificially flavoured cheesy corn chips.

Have you ever opened up a bag of corn chips and noticed you couldn’t stop eating them?

This is no accident.

It’s not that you’re overindulgent or have a weakness for corn chips.

Food scientists work hard at figuring out the bliss point of food products. The Bliss Point is the amount of an ingredient, such as salt, fat or sugar, which optimises deliciousness. When you hit the Bliss Point, the pleasure pathways in your brain light up.

Why would food manufacturers spend millions of dollars trying to find the Bliss Point?

The reason is simple: so you keep going back for more.

Your phone and the apps on it are exactly the same as that addictive bag of corn chips. These products have been carefully engineered to deliver hits of dopamine and instant gratification. Billions of dollars have been invested to make you addicted to using this technology.

As The Slow Media Manifesto states:

Your time = their $

And just like a bag of corn chips, once you open up social media, you have to be careful how much you consume. The more you have, the more you want more. And this can wreak havoc with your health and happiness.

So what can you do to defend your focus?

Below are some simple strategies I recommend experimenting with to reclaim your time, energy and attention.

1. Buy a watch

Use a watch

Instead of checking the time on your phone’s home screen, invest in an old school watch. Not a fancy Apple watch that can receive messages, etc. Just one that tells you the time.

2. Minimise triggers

Pings, dings and rings from your phone take you off track. They pull your attention away from what you need to do. They tell you to check a message, open an email, etc.

Turn these all off.

Don’t even let your phone vibrate.

Here’s what I recommend: Have set times when you check your phone throughout the day.

3. Put on Do Not Disturb While Driving mode

If you’re worried people will think you’re being rude because you don’t respond to their calls or texts immediately, then this strategy is for you!

Do not disturb while driving mode will send an automated text message back to the person who has just messaged you.

The default message tells the person you can’t pick up the phone because you’re driving. But you can customise this message to suit your needs.

You could change the automated message to:

“Hi. This is an automated reply to let you know that I’m currently studying. I will not see your message straight away but I’ll get back to you soon.”

4. Delete social media from your phone

Delete social media apps on phone

Let’s face it, if you have to open up your laptop and login to social media, you’re less likely to go on there.

If you must keep social media on your phone, have it blocked by default with an app. Allow yourself to go on only at certain times.

5. Disable notifications

You need to be very selective about which apps can send you notifications. Any notification is a trigger that can potentially derail you.

6. Disable raise to wake

If you have an iPhone, try this little experiment:

Pick it up.
Does the display turn on without you having to press a single button?
If yes, this means the Raise to Wake setting is on.

Turn this off by going into Settings > Display and Brightness.

By disabling this setting, you decrease your chances of getting derailed by seeing notifications every time you pick up your phone.

7. Go greyscale

Go greyscale

The colours on your phone are hyper stimulating and intensify the pleasure experienced from using it. You can make your phone less pleasurable to use (and addictive) by turning the colours to greyscale.

You can do this by going into Settings > General > Accessibility > Display Accommodations > Colour Filters.

8. Install a blocker app

You can use technology to help you stay off technology. For example, the app Freedom allows you to schedule being locked out of certain sites for parts of your day. Stay Focusd will limit the amount of time you’re allowed on certain sites and will kick you off the Internet at a certain time (cue: bedtime).

9. Put your phone in another room

This is perhaps the simplest and most effective thing you can do. Before you sit down to do any work or face-to-face socialising, put your phone away. Out of sight is out of mind.

10. Create barriers

Put phone in a box

It may not be enough to put your phone in another room. If the urge to check your phone is strong, put your phone in a box in another room (maybe in a box that has a lock on it).

Alternatively, hand your phone to someone in your family who you trust. Tell them not to give it back to you until you finish doing what you need to do.

11. Do a Phast (i.e. phone fast)

Non-stop texting messes with your brain chemistry. So you need to give your brain a break from constantly processing and sending messages. This is where phasting can help.

Phasting is the digital equivalent of intermittent fasting. This is where you take time out from using your phone and looking at screens. It could just be for a few hours or an entire weekend. It’s up to you. But by doing so, you’re giving your brain and your senses a chance to readjust and recalibrate to the real world.

To sum up

Your ability to focus is your most important and valuable resource. Don’t let it get hijacked by some tech company in Silicon Valley. Practice these simple strategies to cultivate a healthier brain and less frenzied lifestyle.

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A few years ago, I became obsessed with optimising my time.

Efficiency was the name of the game.

In an attempt to be ‘time smart’, I started ordering my groceries online and having them delivered straight to my door.

Yes, it was convenient.

Yes, it was efficient.

But over time, I saw that this convenience and efficiency came at a cost.

I’m not talking about the $20 monthly subscription fee to the supermarket. I’m talking about the cost to my lived human experience.

The power of micro-interactions

Earlier this year, I realised that by having my groceries delivered, I was missing out on a lot of valuable micro-interactions.

I was depriving myself of experiences that made me feel connected to other people and my community.

You may be thinking, “Yeah, big deal, Jane! Don’t you have better things to do with your time than grocery shopping?”

My younger ‘optimised’ self would have thought so. And that’s certainly what the Big Tech companies want you to believe. Big tech wants you to believe that a good life is an optimised life and one that is friction-free.

While I used to think grocery shopping was a waste of my time, I don’t think this way anymore.

Shopping for food in person at your local farmers’ market, bulk food store, or supermarket is an experience worth having. It’s time well spent.

Bulk food store in Northbridge

Besides acquiring the best fresh produce and ingredients, the in-person shopping experience offers unexpected micro-interactions.

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about . . .

Last week, I popped into a new supermarket to pick up a few items. I was looking for plant-based sausages, but after going all around the store, I couldn’t find them. I knew I needed help.

I approached a young employee who was busily stacking tubs of hummus in a refrigerator. I asked her if she knew where the vegan products were.

She said, “Oh, I think you’ll find them over here” and then she took off like a rocket. I was practically running with my shopping cart to keep up with her.

I said to her, “Wow, you walk really fast!”

To which she said, “Oh… sorry!”

I said, “No, don’t apologise! I think it’s great!”

We arrived at the plant-based sausages, I thanked her, and she sped off again.

This brief social interaction probably lasted less than 60 seconds, but it made my day. It got my heart rate up and put a smile on my face.

I felt inspired by her young person energy. It also dawned on me that I could probably push myself a little harder in my next workout session.

I’m not exaggerating when I say my life was enriched by this tiny social interaction. Had I just ordered my plant-based sausages online, I would have missed out on this joyous experience.

The science of talking to strangers

This experience got me thinking about why I love talking to complete strangers so much. Unless I encounter a total grump, I usually always leave the interaction feeling better than before.

I was curious. Had any research been done on this?

It turns out quite a bit!

Dr Gillian Sandstrom has written a book that explores the many benefits of talking to strangers. It’s called Once Upon a Stranger: The Science of How “Small” Talk Can Add Up To a Big Life.

In an interview, Dr Sandstrom explains some of the benefits of talking to strangers. She states:

“The first benefit that we’ve found consistently is just that it puts you in a good mood. When you talk to a stranger, you usually walk away feeling a bit happier and more connected, which we know is so important for humans.

Another thing from the research is that we tend to learn more than we expect to when we talk to strangers. It brings novelty into our life, makes our life richer. There’s research about how well-being can arise from not only happiness, purpose, and meaning, but this third source: psychological richness. I think talking to strangers gives you richness, because it brings novelty and learning and those kinds of things into your life.”

Famous author Kurt Vonnegut understood this psychological richness that came from talking to strangers out in the world (not online).

Kurt Vonnegut

He could foresee the problems associated with technology back in 2005 (well before social media, online shopping, and generative AI became widely adopted).

In a PBS interview, Vonnegut tells a story about going to the shops to purchase a single envelope.

Before leaving the house, his wife says to Vonnegut:

“You’re not a poor man. You know, why don’t you go online and buy a hundred envelopes and put them in the closet?”

Vonnegut continues the story, telling the PBS interviewer:

“I pretend not to hear her. And go out to get an envelope because I’m going to have a hell of a good time in the process of buying one envelope.

I meet a lot of people. And, see some great looking babes. And a fire engine goes by. And I give them the thumbs up. And, and ask a woman what kind of dog that is. And, and I don’t know…

And, of course, the computers will do us out of that. And, what the computer people don’t realize, or they don’t care, is we’re dancing animals. You know, we love to move around. And, we’re not supposed to dance at all anymore.”

The ‘Computer people’ Vonnegut referred to are the Tech bros of today. They have designed apps that have made us addicted, isolated, and lonely.

But we don’t have to go down this path. We have a choice.

Instead of choosing convenience, efficiency, and comfort, we can choose real contact with the world and people.

This is why I am resisting using AI. It’s why I don’t use any social media. It’s also why I have now gone back to buying my groceries in person and avoid the self-service checkouts as much as possible (even if it means waiting in line for five minutes).

Not every trip to the supermarket is a joyous event

Sometimes the checkout person is dead tired and doesn’t want to talk (which is fair enough). Or I’ll try to strike up a conversation and the other person doesn’t want to talk (this is rare, but it does happen).

You also need to be careful about who you choose to strike up a conversation with. Some people can be dangerous and unhinged, but in my experience, most people are kind and friendly.

If you have concerns about ‘Stranger Danger’, Dr Sandstrom suggests:

“Choose a situation that feels safe, such as a public place in broad daylight with plenty of people around.”

She goes on to add:

“In my life, instead of being a danger, strangers have been game changers.”

I couldn’t agree more.

Even if you do end up talking to someone who is a grump or not in the mood for a chat, you’ll learn something about yourself and the human experience.

To sum up

By resisting the pull to be efficient and by seeking out micro-interactions, your life will be a whole lot richer. As Kurt Vonnegut once said: “We are here on Earth to fart around, and don’t let anyone tell you any different.”

 

At the hairdressers

I’ve had many great conversations while sitting in the hairdresser’s chair.

The other day, I was getting my haircut when my hairdresser told me something her 15-year-old son had said. His words took her completely by surprise. He said:

“Mum, I need to try harder this year.”

I hear those words a lot. Try harder.

I hear them from students who want to do better at school and from teachers who are trying to motivate students (“You need to try harder”).

But what does it actually mean to “try harder”?

The problem is that this advice is too vague and abstract.

If you don’t have a clear picture of what ‘trying harder’ looks like, you’re in dangerous territory because you’re attempting to motivate yourself towards an abstraction.

Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg

In the book Tiny Habits, Professor BJ Fogg explains the problems associated with motivating yourself to achieve a vague goal. He writes:

“You’ve probably seen a well-meaning public-health poster in the doctor’s office that shows lots of colourful vegetables with the headline: EAT THE RAINBOW!

At first glance, you think: Yes, I need to eat better food. But then you’re not sure what practical steps to take. How much green and how much red? That means salad and apples, right? It can’t mean mint ice-cream and red licorice, can it? You are motivated to “eat the rainbow,” but maybe you don’t know how. You feel frustrated and end up being a little hard on yourself.”

I didn’t want my hairdresser’s son to feel frustrated and annoyed with himself. He clearly had good intentions.

I asked my hairdresser, “What does trying harder look like for your son? If he’s trying harder, what is he doing?”

She said she wasn’t sure. So, I kept asking questions.

“Does it look like him sitting down and testing himself with flashcards before a test? Taking notes in class? Listening to the teacher instead of chatting with his mates?”

The answer was clear. She said, “Listening to the teacher! He needs to start listening to his teachers.”

I also mentioned that it would help if he learnt his teachers’ names (you’d be surprised how many teachers tell me their students don’t know their names).

Remembering a teacher’s name, staying focused on what they have to say, resisting distractions, taking notes and reading your textbook may sound easy, but these are skills that require continuous practice.

If you’re not used to doing them, they can feel hard.

Even with years of practice under my belt, understanding new ideas still feels hard. These days, reading feels like weightlifting for my mind!

After getting my haircut, for the next 24 hours, I kept thinking about those words “try harder”.

Something was bugging me about it because I felt it wasn’t helpful to tell yourself to “try harder”. . . and then, like a bolt of lightning, the answer hit me: my hairdresser’s son doesn’t need to try harder. He needs to focus on doing a few specific hard things.

Do hard things

By ‘specific hard things’, I mean concrete behaviours he can do right now (or at a specific point in time) to improve his understanding of his school subjects.

For example, if he wanted to start a home study routine, here are some concrete behaviours I’d recommend he try:

  • Put your phone away from your body in another room
  • Walk or jog for five minutes before sitting down to study
  • Draw a picture of a concept you need to understand for an upcoming test
  • Test yourself with a deck of flashcards
  • Step up to a whiteboard (or grab a large sheet of paper) and use it to explain an idea

 

These are just a few behaviours that come to mind when I think about “trying harder” with your studies.

Doing these concrete behaviours just once won’t make you go from good to great. But you’ll be surprised by how much meaningful progress you can make in a single, effective study session.

Welcome discomfort into your world

We live in a world where comfort and convenience are increasingly normalised. We expect things, including learning, to be easy.

Life wasn't suppose to be easy

You don’t have to cook (thank you Uber Eats).

You don’t have to move (thank you car).

You don’t have to experience boredom (thank you social media and Netflix).

You don’t even have to use your brain anymore (thank you ChatGPT and Claude).

By outsourcing tasks that require physical and cognitive effort, we may save time, but there are hidden costs.

What are the hidden costs?

People are losing their skills, destroying their health, and atrophying their brains, all while being flooded with unhealthy levels of dopamine. I’d even go as far as saying that people are losing their lives and what it means to be human.

In every moment, we have a choice: we can do the easy thing that gives us a quick dopamine hit, or we can do the hard thing that gives us a slow and healthy release of dopamine.

Choose to do hard things

Here are some examples of what I’m talking about . . .

When you wake up, you can scroll on your phone or do some physical activity.

At the end of the day, you can order takeaway that is engineered to light up the reward pathways in your brain, or you can prepare a healthy homemade meal.

When you’ve got a spare 30 minutes, you can watch some YouTube or go for a walk outside.

You can use ChatGPT to write your essay, or you can use your brain and build your skills.

You can talk to an AI chatbot and have a friction-free relationship, or you can organise to meet up with a friend.

Every time you choose the hard thing over the easy thing, you build your confidence. You can trust yourself to do hard things and survive them. Over time, as you build your skills, those hard things don’t feel as hard as they once did.

For instance, if the Internet goes down and you’re not dependent on ChatGPT, you know you’ll be okay. You can rely on yourself to think and entertain yourself (thank you brain).

This is why I’m committing to doing hard things this year. I’m challenging myself, and I know I’ll be better for it.

Just to be clear, I’m not talking about self-harm or inflicting extreme pain on myself.

I’m referring to activities that bring up a cringey discomfort and make me think, “Ahhh, I don’t want to do this!”.

These include activities that require sustained focus and/or mental and physical effort, such as writing an article, going for a run, riding my bike to the shops, and meditating.

How can you get yourself to do hard things if you’ve become used to taking the path of comfort and convenience?

The simplest way is to ease into doing those hard things. Turn those hard things into tiny habits.

Here is a list of tiny habits for hard things I’m focusing on doing:

  • After I wake up and put on my gym clothes, I will make my bed.
  • After I make my bed, I will block myself from accessing addictive apps on my phone and hop on my treadmill.
  • After I hop on my treadmill, I will run for 30 minutes.
  • After I get ready for the day, I will put my phone on silent mode and place it away from my body in another room (far away from my workspace).
  • After I have breakfast, I will do five minutes of meditation.
  • After my meditation session, I will spend five minutes making a plan for the day.
  • After I finish creating my plan, I will use my brain to write for 25 minutes at my treadmill desk.
  • After I finish writing, I will sit down and do 20 minutes of mind mapping.
  • When I need to research a topic, I will use Google and Google Scholar (not ChatGPT).
  • When travelling on public transport, I’ll put my phone away and try to strike up a conversation with a stranger.

 

Some of these things may not seem like much, but all of these behaviours require mental and physical effort. Remember, there’s a much easier alternative: sitting, tapping, swiping, and scrolling on your phone.

For instance, I don’t need to chop vegetables and cook my meals. I could eat out or order food to my door. This would save me time and effort (cooking my meals can feel like a part-time job).

But I know I would suffer at some point (physically, mentally, and financially).

Chopping vegetables and cooking take effort, but it helps me cultivate calm. When done with a focused mind (not listening to podcasts or talking on the phone), I really enjoy these activities.

If I were to outsource these activities, I’d be going backwards, because I’d most likely lose my valuable cooking skills over time.

Similarly, writing articles like this one feels hard. But hard doesn’t mean bad. It’s satisfying to focus my mind, wrestle with ideas, and write.

Many of us mistakenly believe that an easy life is a better life. But it’s not. A life where you are constantly pursuing pleasure and taking the easy path can lead to anhedonia.

What is anhedonia?

Anhedonia is the inability to experience pleasure in things that were once pleasurable (e.g., a homecooked meal or a sunset). Some people describe it as life in greyscale.

Life in greyscale mode

It turns out the more pleasure we pursue, the more pleasure we need and the more pain we experience.

It may sound counterintuitive, but pursuing hard things makes you feel more motivated and more positive about life.

As humans, we want to challenge ourselves. We’re wired for it.

Psychiatrist Dr Anna Lembke encourages us to take on difficult, even painful, activities as a way of “aligning our primitive wiring with our modern ecosystem”. She writes:

“We are survivors. We’re wired for struggle, especially of physical nature. Yet we live in a world in which we’re largely insulated from pain. And not just pain, but also discomfort of any kind. Everything is supplied to us at the touch of a finger. Now we struggle just to get up off the couch. Our modern ecosystem incentivizes inactivity. Inactivity breeds lethargy. Lethargy breeds anxiety and depression. We must fight against this.”

So, forget trying harder. Work out a few hard things you want to do and focus on doing them instead.

 

A life changing practice

I’ve developed a simple but powerful morning practice that has changed me.

It has made me a calmer, better focused, happier, more mentally flexible, and creative person.

It takes anywhere from 20 to 45 minutes to do this practice, but trust me, this morning practice is time well spent.

It usually feels hard at first, but by the end, I feel strong, confident, and clearer in my thinking. As clichéd as it sounds, this practice helps me be the best version of myself.

What simple morning practice am I talking about?

I’m talking about my movement practice.

Before I do any work (e.g., check my email or messages, read the news, or deliver a presentation), I make myself do some physical activity.

I usually run on a treadmill, ride a stationary bike, or lift heavy weights.

How I move in the mornings

I can’t say I’m leaping out of bed with joy at the thought of exercising. There’s always a little voice in my head that grumbles, “Ugh, do we have to do this?”

But I push forward and lace up my running shoes because I know that by the end, I’ll feel amazing.

Twenty minutes into my movement practice, my husband says he can hear me ‘whooping’ with joy from the other end of the house.

The natural ‘runner’s high’ people talk about is real.

I can relate to Cultural Historian Vybarr Cregan-Reid when he describes his running highs in the following way:

“They are as strong as bootleg whisky. They make you want to stop everyone that you pass and tell them how beautiful they are, what a wonderful world this is, isn’t it great to be alive?”

Discovering the delight in movement

The amazing thing is that a year ago, I couldn’t run for more than a minute without being completely out of breath. Now I can run for 45 minutes nonstop. And I’m hooked.

How did I get here? And more importantly, how can you cultivate a movement practice that leaves you feeling energised, less stressed, and in a great mood?

Do you remember, as a child, running around the playground, swinging on the monkey bars, and playing games like Chasey?

You did these things naturally and effortlessly, and you enjoyed doing them. No one had to force you to move.

You ran for the sake of running. You ran because it made you feel good and fully alive.

Movement was fun as a child

This is what movement does for me. It makes me feel excited about life.

I’ve discovered this is the key to building a long-lasting movement practice: you have to find delight in moving your body. And you have to hang in there for long enough for the delight to show up.

You see, the delight probably won’t be there straightaway. Instead, what you’ll usually find is that there’s some discomfort and resistance for the first 10 – 15 minutes of your movement practice.

But if you persist, trust me, the delight will come knocking at your door and sweep through your house like a group of wild party animals.

Just to be clear, you don’t have to run to experience this delightful feeling. Any moderate-intensity physical activity, such as riding a bike, dancing, and swimming, will do the job.

In the book The Joy of Movement, psychologist Dr Kelly McGonigal makes it clear that you can achieve a natural high from any sustained physical activity.

She says the key to experiencing this ‘exercise induced euphoria’ is to put in the time and effort. She writes:

“You just have to do something that is moderately difficult for you and stick with it for at least twenty minutes. That’s because the runner’s high isn’t a running high. It’s a persistence high.”

The thing about movement is that it takes effort. But that effort is what delivers the delight!

When you do hard things for a sustained period of time, your brain rewards you by serving up a cocktail of feel good chemicals, such as dopamine, endorphins, serotonin, noradrenaline, and endocannabinoids.

From an evolutionary perspective, this makes sense.

Life for our ancient ancestors was hard work and often dangerous. To survive, they had to forage and hunt for food, find water, build shelters, and run from wild predators.

What would keep hunter-gatherers going when their stomachs were empty and their bodies were in pain?

These neurochemical rewards (e.g, dopamine and serotonin) would keep them going. And keep going they did!

Hunter-gatherers clocked up thousands of steps each day. They were constantly on the move because their survival depended on it.

But here’s what I find really interesting . . .

Despite being incredibly active, hunter-gatherers’ brains were wired for comfort and laziness. This wiring served them well, especially when food was hard to obtain. Conserving energy through sedentary behaviour was a survival trait.

This explains why most of us feel resistance to the idea of physical exercise.

Fast-forward 30,000 years to today: our modern environment is completely different from that of our ancient ancestors, but our brains are still the same (i.e. wired for comfort).

Our brains are wired for comfort

Want food? You can order it with the tap of a button. In our modern world, you don’t have to move much, if at all.

Because of our ancient wiring, some resistance to physical activity will always be there. We just have to push ourselves to do the hard things first (e.g., exercise), knowing that the rewards will come if we persist for long enough.

As you start moving your body, during those first few minutes, you may find yourself thinking, “Why am I doing this? This doesn’t feel good!”

To which, I say: Can you feel your heart pounding in your chest? Can you hear yourself huffing and puffing? Is that sweat dropping off your face and onto the ground?

Fabulous! You’re on the right track. Hang in there. It won’t be long before your mood starts to shift in a dramatic way.

Embracing the full body experience

I have come to love the feeling of my clothes soaked in sweat after I exercise. There was a time when I thought that was gross. But not anymore.

Those sweaty, stinky clothes are evidence that I’ve worked hard. It’s proof that I pushed myself and the feel good chemicals are flowing through my brain and will continue to do so for the next few hours.

In The Official Dopamine Nation Workbook, psychiatrist Dr Anna Lembke explains what happens at a neurochemical level when you do hard things. She writes:

“While engaging in these kinds of painful activities [exercise, meditation, ice-cold water plunges, etc], our dopamine levels rise slowly over the latter half of the activity and remain elevated for hours afterward before going back down to baseline, without ever going below baseline.”

Slow dopamine release from movement

This is why Dr Lembke starts her day by avoiding her phone and doing the hard things first. She said on a recent podcast interview:

“I won’t even go on my laptop until I’ve exercised, eaten breakfast, I’ve read a paper that gets delivered to my house, I’ve made my bed . . . I’ve done all the things I need to do to centre myself for the day.”

Similarly, I equate my movement practice with getting my brain ready for the day and accessing parts of myself that would otherwise lie dormant.

Sometimes movement helps me to experience a wonderful flow state. I feel in tune with my mind and body. Things just feel easier.

But even if I don’t reach a state of flow, moving helps me be more present and show up as the best version of myself in the other areas of my life, such as my work and when I’m with my family.

My movement practice is something I’ve come to genuinely enjoy. It’s not something I need to rush through to tick off a list.

If you’re reading this and thinking “But I don’t like movement” and “I’m not an athletic person”, I get it because I wasn’t always a super active person.

There was a time when movement felt like a grind. I felt clumsy and awkward. It was something I just had to get done.

So, what led to this dramatic shift in how I related to movement?

I shifted from training for my appearance (to stay lean) to training to feel good.

Psychologists would say I became intrinsically motivated to move rather than extrinsically motivated.

When you’re extrinsically motivated, you’re moving to lose weight, achieve a particular look (e.g., the fitness influencer look), or have a sexy body. You’re trying to reach some place in the future, and it often takes you to a place of misery.

A cautionary tale from a bodybuilding champion

In my early twenties, I became friends with a businesswoman who was also a female bodybuilder. I was inspired by her discipline and focus, so when she invited me to attend a Bodybuilding competition, I jumped at the chance. I thought, “Why not?”

I should point out that this was in the pre-social-media era, when you couldn’t easily watch videos of people flexing their muscles online. You had to go to competitions like these, or watch a documentary (rented from a video store), to get a glimpse into the world of bodybuilding.

As we sat in the audience at the Bodybuilding Championships, one perfectly chiselled body after another walked onto the stage and flexed their muscles. I felt inspired.

Bodybuilding championships

Without knowing what went into getting visible abs and perfectly toned bodies like these, I remember thinking, “I want a body like that!”

A couple of hours later, the judges announced the bodybuilding champions, and shortly after, the party kicked off as everyone hit the dance floor, including the bodybuilders I had watched strut their stuff across the stage.

At one point, I found myself dancing next to the Female Bodybuilding Champion. She was holding her massive trophy, and I couldn’t help but notice that her face had a pained expression and she was struggling to move and stay upright.

She’d just been crowned Bodybuilding Champion of the Year, so I thought, “Why is she looking so sad and weak?”

I spun around, told her she looked amazing, and congratulated her. I then asked her (shouting over the loud music) how she was feeling. Her answer took me by surprise. She said:

“I’m so tired and hungry. I just want to go home and eat a pizza!”

That’s when I realised she had been starving herself for the competition, and just like that, the idea of achieving a body like hers quickly vanished from my mind.

To achieve the ‘perfect’ look, bodybuilders and fitness influencers often severely restrict their diets, which can be harmful.

In the book How Not to Die (Too Soon), Professor and Personal Trainer Devi Sridhar states:

“For most women, achieving visible abs requires an extremely low body fat percentage (less than 17 per cent, below the 20-23 per cent healthy range), which is often linked to irregular menstruation, brittle nails, feeling faint and disrupted hormone production.”

How Not to Die (Too Soon)

So, unless you want to feel faint and constantly crave pizza, think twice before setting a goal to look like a bodybuilding champion or a fitness influencer!

When the focus is on aesthetics, you undermine the joy of movement.

In the DW documentary Muscles – More than Power and Pumping Iron, social media influencer and former Bikini model champion Sophia Thiel shared her experience of training to achieve the ‘perfect’ body. She states:

“When you train for the sake of your appearance, it can quickly tear you apart and take away all the joy that the sport normally brings with it.”

Post competition, Sophia found it difficult to maintain her competitive form and stick to her competition diet. Her weight began to fluctuate, and the nasty online comments about her appearance started to take their toll on her mental health.

At some point, Sophia shifted her focus from her appearance to how lifting weights made her feel. She said:

“Today my motivation for working out is very different. It brings a lot more balance to my life. I can deal with stress better. The way I carry myself is completely different, which gives me self-confidence. My sleep and concentration are better too. In other words, training improves my quality of life.”

DW Documentary - Muscles

Making the mental shift, like Sophia did, from wanting to look good to feeling good, is a total game-changer.

But in our image-obsessed world, it’s easy to lose sight of the mind and mood-altering effects of physical movement (spending less time on social media and unfollowing fitness influencers can help with this mental shift).

Harvard Professor John Ratey sums it up nicely when he says physical exercise is like “a little bit of Prozac and a little bit of Ritalin”. It does wonders for your brain (especially your attention and mood) with no nasty side effects.

To sum up

Instead of reaching for your phone first thing in the morning, try reaching for your running shoes, a set of dumbbells, or a yoga mat.

Developing a morning movement practice is one of the simplest and most powerful things you can do to benefit your brain and improve the quality of your life.

But the key is to find delight in moving for the sake of moving. You need to persist with the movement for long enough – at least 20 minutes – for your brain to reward you with a dose of feel good chemicals.

When movement becomes inherently enjoyable, you’ll find yourself doing it more often. Before you know it, it will be a non-negotiable part of your day. In the words of Dr Kelly McGonigal, “regular exposure to exercise will over time teach your brain to like, want, and need it”.

 

Image Credit

Image 6: “2013 Fall Classic Natural Bodybuilding Competition – U.S. Army Garrison Humphreys, South Korea – 28 Sep 2013” by USAG-Humphreys is licensed under CC BY 2.0.