Create lasting change without new year’s resolutions

Behavior design

I’m sensing a lot of cynicism and resignation about new year’s resolutions.

And look, I get it. I can understand why new year’s resolutions have become so unpopular.

It’s frustrating to vow to make a change only to find that you’ve fallen off the bandwagon a few days later.

I’ve been there. I know how dispiriting it can be.

But what if I told you there was a process you could follow that could help you change your behaviour in any area that is important to you?

There is a process. It’s called Behavior Design.

The process takes me about 20-30 minutes (from start to finish).

It’s not a quick fix, but it works.

In my experience, Behavior Design is way more effective than the stock standard strategies you hear about, such as manifesting, vision boards, SMART goals, accountability buddies, etc.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with doing those things. But used on their own, these strategies often set us up to fail.

Behavior Design is different.

This system allows you to “become your own soul’s doctor” (a phrase used by Stoic philosopher Epictetus). Basically, you quit chasing gurus and the latest trends. By following the process, you take control of your life and move yourself in the direction of a flourishing life.

I learnt about Behavior Design from Stanford University Professor BJ Fogg.

Last year, I participated in his online program, Design for Behavior Change, and I’ve been using his system ever since.

 

What is Behavior Design?

Behavior Design is a systematic process that helps you to change your behaviour and design for behaviour change. What I love about Behavior Design is it doesn’t take a one-size-fits-all approach to behaviour change. By using this process, you can pinpoint the behaviours that are the right fit for you.

The foundation of Behavior Design is the Fogg Behavior Model (B = MAP).

B=MAP

This model explains all human behaviour. According to the Fogg Behavior Model, if you want a behaviour to happen, you need three things to occur all at the same time:

  • Motivation: you need to be sufficiently motivated to do the behaviour
  • Ability: you need to be able to do the behaviour
  • A prompt: you need to be reminded to engage in the behaviour

 

If any one of these components is missing, the behaviour won’t happen.

The Behavior Design process takes all of these components into account.

 

Here are the steps involved in Behavior Design (i.e., designing for behaviour change):
  1. Get clear on the aspiration (i.e., the goal or outcome)
  2. Magic wand potential behaviours
  3. Make the behaviours crispy
  4. Behaviour match to pinpoint your Golden Behaviours (Focus Mapping)
  5. Make it easier
  6. Set up a prompt
  7. Implement (and tweak)

 

If you just switched off when you saw that long list of steps or read the word ‘Magic wand’, I don’t blame you. It’s a lot. But please, stay with me.

Behavior Design is straightforward (no magic is involved here). Unlike new year’s resolutions, which we tend to set, forget, and abandon, Behavior Design delivers results.

I’m going to walk you through each of these steps for an aspiration of mine that I set for the new year: To build strength (muscle).

Let’s go!

 

Step 1. Clarify the Aspiration

The first step is to get clear on your aspiration (i.e., the goal or outcome).

What do you want to achieve?

Don’t worry about making it a SMART goal. Your aspiration can be vague and abstract.

Here’s one of my aspirations for the new year:

To build strength (muscle).

When I think about building strength, the outcome I want to achieve is training consistently (three weight lifting sessions per week).

I’m not setting a goal to “get a six-pack.” Ugh. Extrinsic goals like this never leave me feeling fulfilled or motivated for long. In contrast, the idea of being someone who trains consistently and is strong and healthy does excite me.

 

Step 2. Magic Wanding (Brainstorm Behaviours)

After clarifying your aspiration, you need to think about the concrete behaviours that will help you achieve it.

This is the crucial step we often miss. Too many people stop at setting vague goals when it comes to changing their behaviour, which is their ultimate downfall.

As BJ Fogg says, when we try to motivate ourselves towards an abstraction, this rarely works.

So, here I am, saying I want to build strength to become a ferociously sturdy lady. This is a great idea, but how will I do it?

According to Behavior Design, I need to focus on the concrete behaviours (i.e., the things I can do right now or at a specific point in time) that will help build muscle.

In this step, you imagine you have magical powers and you can get yourself to engage in any behaviour.

The playful Professor Fogg even recommends purchasing a magic wand, waving it, and asking yourself:

“If I could wave a magic wand and get myself to do any behaviour to achieve this aspiration, what would it be?”

 

 

After waving my homemade magic wand in the air (made out of a thin stick and electrical tape), I asked myself:

“If I could get myself to engage in any behaviour to build strength, what would it be?”

I wrote down each behaviour on an index card.

Here are some of the behaviours I brainstormed:

  • Find a personal trainer and pay for five sessions
  • Bookmark basic Peloton strength classes on my phone
  • Join a gym
  • Do five push-ups
  • Do five squats
  • Use resistance bands to walk down the hall
  • Do five overhead presses with dumbbells
  • Do 10 bench presses with dumbbells
  • Create a pinup board of strength training ideas with dumbbells
  • Find a friend to train with
  • Buy kettlebells
  • Find personal trainers on YouTube
  • Get out books from the library on strength training
  • Write a letter to my future self about strength training
  • Talk to friends who strength train and ask for ideas on routines
  • Explore Reddit forums on strength training
  • Purchase heavier dumbbells (12kg)
  • Buy $1000 worth of gym equipment
  • Punch boxing bag 10 times
  • Watch the Strong Woman documentary series

 

BJ Fogg writes in his book Tiny Habits:

“You are not making any decisions or commitments in this step. You are exploring your options. The more behaviors you list, the better. You can tap into your creativity or maybe ask friends for their ideas.”

If you’re struggling to come up with behaviours, you can also use generative AI to help you brainstorm. But there is power in generating your own ideas away from a screen (my advice is to try to do this on your own or with a friend before turning to AI).

 

Step 3. Crispify Target Behaviours

Take each of the behaviours you’ve brainstormed and make them crispy. By crispy, BJ Fogg means specific.

For example, ‘Punch boxing bag 10 times (jab, cross)’ is a crispy behaviour compared to ‘Do boxing workout’.

 

Step 4. Behaviour Match to Pinpoint Golden Behaviours (Focus Mapping)

This is where the ‘magic’ happens. In this step, you determine the best behaviours to engage in. BJ Fogg calls these your ‘Golden Behaviours’.

You’ll need a large, clear surface to do this and some index cards (four in total). Each of your crispy behaviours will also need to be written out on index cards.

Fogg breaks this stage down into two rounds.

 

Here’s what you do in Round 1 . . .

Write down ‘High Impact Behaviour’ and ‘Low Impact Behaviour’ on two index cards. Place the ‘High Impact Behaviour’ card at the top and the ‘Low Impact Behaviour’ at the bottom.

Pick up one of your crispy behaviours (written on a card) and ask:

“How effective is this behaviour in helping me to achieve my aspiration?”

Place it along the vertical continuum. If a behaviour is highly effective in moving you towards achieving your aspiration (e.g., it will have a high impact in helping me to build strength), place it closer to the top. If a behaviour isn’t very effective in moving you towards your goal, put it closer to the bottom.

 

 

For example, watching a documentary on women weightlifting may be inspiring and enjoyable, but it won’t help me build strength. For this reason, I placed this card at the bottom of the continuum. But doing five squats regularly would be highly effective at helping me achieve greater leg strength, so I placed this card at the top.

Do this with all your crispy behaviours. The table will get messy, but that’s okay. Trust the process and keep putting your cards down.

 

That’s Round 1 complete. Now, for Round 2 . . .

Round 2 involves getting grounded in reality. You may have several high impact behaviours, but you may find you’re not motivated or able to do them. What you do next will weed out those behaviours.

Create two more cards: “Yes, I can get myself to do this!” and “No, I can’t get myself to do this.” Place them like so (see image below).

 

Now, we take each card and ask:

“Can I actually get myself to do this behaviour?”

Move the cards along the horizontal plane.

When I asked myself, “Can I get myself to buy $1000 worth of gym equipment?” my response was “Not a chance!”. Firstly, I don’t have the space for more gym equipment, and secondly, I can’t justify spending more money on gym equipment! I moved this card over to the far left.

 

Again, don’t overthink it. Move the cards quickly. Go with your gut.

Once you’ve moved all the cards, focus on the second top quadrant. What behaviours do you have in this location?

These are what BJ Fogg calls your ‘Golden Behaviours’.

 

These behaviours have three things in common:

  • They are high-impact behaviours (i.e., they are effective in moving you towards your aspiration)
  • You are motivated to do the behaviour
  • You can do the behaviour

 

You want to channel your time, energy, and attention into engaging in these behaviours.

For example, once I had shuffled my cards around in the two rounds, my golden behaviours were:

  • Use resistance bands to walk down the hall (20 steps)
  • Create a pinup board of strength exercises
  • Punch boxing bag 10 times
  • Do 10 bench presses
  • Do five squats
  • Do five overhead presses
  • Talk to friends who lift weights for ideas
  • Bookmark beginner Peloton strength classes

 

BJ Fogg recommends selecting three to four Golden Behaviours to focus on. I can see why.

You have a limited amount of time, energy, and attention. Focusing on too many different behaviours for a specific area can be overwhelming. You run the risk of giving up before you even get started.

When I looked at my Golden Behaviours, I realised several behaviours could be combined into a basic workout routine, leaving me with the following four Golden Behaviours:

  • Follow a workout program that includes my favourite strength exercises (two times per week)
  • Create a pinup board of strength exercises
  • Talk to friends who lift weights for ideas
  • Bookmark beginner Peloton strength classes

 

This step of focus mapping was pleasantly surprising. It gave me insights and clarity about why I had felt stuck with my strength training for so long. Here’s what I realised:

  • For some strange reason, I had got it in my head that I needed to hire a personal trainer. However, focus mapping made me realise I don’t want or need to hire a personal trainer (potentially saving me hundreds of dollars and travel time).
  • I have enough exercise equipment at home. I don’t need to buy more expensive exercise equipment (saving me even more money!).
  • The main thing stopping me from strength training was not having a routine or program that I liked. Figuring out what exercises to do every morning required mental effort, which I simply didn’t have. It felt overwhelming, so I skipped my strength workouts.

 

After I had pinpointed my golden behaviours, I immediately texted a friend who is a physiotherapist. I asked if he would help me develop a simple strength training routine. He said yes and started sending links to explore ideas. I was off and running (no pun intended).

Once you’ve completed step 4, you can stop and call it a day. However, there are three other major steps in Behaviour Design that are worth mentioning. If you’re keen to learn more about this fantastic process, keep reading.

 

Step 5. Make It Easier

When a behaviour is easy to do, it feels fun. You can do it quickly. This means you’re more likely to do it and do it again and again.

Instead of saying to myself, “Lift weights for 1 hour a day” and having no idea what exercises I’d be doing, I say, “Pick up dumbbells and do five overhead presses” or “Look at strength training routine and start with exercise 1”. It may not seem like much, but it’s a start. It’s also infinitely better than letting my dumbbells sit and collect dust.

If you want to learn more about making behaviours easier, I highly recommend checking out BJ Fogg’s book Tiny Habits (one of my favourite books).

 

Tiny Habit by BJ Fogg

 

Step 6. Establish a Prompt

A prompt is a trigger. It reminds you to engage in the desired behaviour. It says to your brain, “Pick up your dumbbells now!”.

The excellent news for me (and all of us) is we don’t have to hire a life coach or personal trainer to be prompted to take action. According to BJ Fogg, the best prompts are things you already do on a regular basis (i.e., pre-existing habits).

Think of behaviours like having breakfast, brushing your teeth, or having a shower. These are all excellent prompts that you can piggyback a new behaviour onto.

For instance, I have a pre-established habit of running on my treadmill every morning. Since I’m already in gym clothes, this is an ideal prompt for a quick strength training session. Here’s what I came up with:

 

After I finish running on my treadmill (prompt),

I will pick up my dumbbells and do five presses (new behaviour).

 

New habit with prompt

I can do more than five dumbbell presses, but I tell myself five is the minimum required to keep the habit alive.

 

Step 7. Implement (and Tweak)

Once you’ve found a place for your new desired behaviours in your daily routine, it’s time to get to work and test things out.

After engaging in a new behaviour, it’s super important to give yourself lots of positive reinforcement. Fogg calls this ‘celebration’. You can say to yourself, “Great work!” or clap your hands. You need to release positive emotions.

This may sound a bit cheesy and over-the-top, but do not skip this critical step. These positive emotions help to wire in the new behaviours as habits.

If a new behaviour isn’t working for you, that’s okay. Play around with it. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Is there a prompt? (If not, establish a clear prompt)
  • Can I make this behaviour easier? (Perhaps it’s too big? If so, make it smaller)
  • Do I want to do this behaviour? (If not, choose a different behaviour you want to do)

 

For instance, after my morning run, I did a 15-minute strength session on the Peloton app using some resistance bands. Some exercises weren’t my cup of tea, so I tweaked the workout.

When it comes to behaviour change, don’t take yourself too seriously. You’ll do better and have more fun by approaching change with a playful mindset.

 

To Sum Up

Behavior Design allows you to be your own self-help guru. Rather than following generic advice, you get to develop your own tailored solutions, which is incredibly powerful.

The other powerful thing about Behavior Design is that you don’t have to psych yourself up to engage in your ‘Golden Behaviours’. You’ve selected behaviours you want to do, so very little motivation is required.

I understand that this may seem complicated, but trust me, this process is extremely practical.

Do yourself a favour: sit down and try following the steps involved in Behavior Design. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. And unlike new year’s resolutions, this process delivers lasting change.

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Tweak your study space

How can you improve the way you study?

You need to start by doing something different.

As Paul Taylor says in his book Death by Comfort:

“Nothing changes if nothing changes”.

Over the years, I’ve read a lot of books and articles on the psychology of behaviour change. One thing is clear from the research literature: it’s much easier to change your behaviour by changing your context rather than changing your thoughts and attitudes.

In other words, the simplest ways you can create change is to set up your environment to make it easier to do the things you want to do and harder to do the things you don’t want to do.

In this blog, I explore different ways you can tweak your study space to make it easier for you to study and harder for you to get distracted.

Here are 20 simple and easy tweaks you can make . . .
1. Have an electronic timer on your desk

Timers are super handy tools, especially when you’re lacking motivation.

Whenever I’m avoiding a task or not feeling in the mood to do something, I’ll say to myself “Let’s just do 10 minutes”. I start the timer and off I go. Usually by the 10 minute mark, the motivation has kicked in and I want to keep going.

Using a timer is a simple and easy way to push through mental blockages. It can also create a sense of time awareness and prompt you to take regular breaks.

2. Use a vertical wall hanger to organise random but important items

Charging cables, flashcards, mini notebooks, and USB sticks: these are just a few examples of random little items that we need. But where do you put this stuff?

A vertical wall hanger with clear pockets (typically used for storing jewellery) works well for storing and separating these random but important items.

3. Clear away clutter in a box

Feeling stressed in your study space? Perhaps it’s clutter that’s getting you down.

Take a moment to scan your environment. If your eyes land on a pile of objects and you find yourself feeling stressed and/or overwhelmed, take those items and dump them into a box. Now take that box and put it in another room. You can sort through these items later on.

4. Place a jug of water and glass on your desk within arms’ reach.

Staying hydrated is super important when it comes to learning. Research shows even mild dehydration can impact students’ ability to learn and remember information.

But if there’s no water in sight, you’re probably not going to be taking regular sips.

I have a reusable drink bottle but some people find having to unscrew a lid a barrier to taking sips. If that’s you, have a jug of water and a glass nearby. You might also enjoy using a reusable straw (stainless steel or glass).

5. Keep plenty of healthy snacks in the fridge and pantry

Being hungry sucks and it doesn’t serve you when it comes to learning. Your brain needs energy to think and learn. Where does it get that energy from? Food.

Make a start on stocking your fridge and pantry with plenty of healthy snack foods. My favourite snack foods include blueberries, strawberries, and pretty much any fruit, nuts, veggie sticks, and soy yoghurt.

While you’re at it, get rid of any tempting ultra-processed junk food. This junk will mess with your ability to think and learn.

6. Use clear containers, big lists, and post-it notes

If I can’t see my work and items I need, they don’t exist. This is why I always store important items in clear storage containers and write things I need to do on bright yellow paper and colourful post-it notes. If it’s out of sight, it’s out of mind.

One trick I use is leaving myself post-it note reminders of what I need to do next after I complete each work session. These notes give my brain a clear direction of what it needs to focus on next, which means I’m less likely to get derailed.

7. Make all your projects visible with open storage

When there’s a lot of things happening and multiple projects on the go, it’s easy to lose track of what you need to do.

Using open storage systems (e.g., open bookshelves or pigeonhole units) can be another effective way to keep track of all your projects. I use a pigeon hole to organise all my projects. This keeps them in sight and in mind.

8. Have your phone out of sight and out of arms’ reach

I remember an academic coach once saying to me, “If you start the day by checking your email, you’ll be 10% less productive”.

She was spot on.

When you start the day with devices, this puts you in reactive mode. You feel less in control.

Here’s a little psychological trick I use to get myself into proactive mode: I lock my phone in a kSafe for the first 30 minutes of the day. My phone is already placed in the safe before I go to bed, which means all I need to do is spin the dial and press the button when I get up in the morning.

Lock phone away

This simple action signals to my brain that I’m in control of my day (and not big tech).

Of course, you don’t need to buy a kSafe to stay off your phone. Placing your phone in a drawer (out of sight) or in another room will also do the job.

9. Noise blocking earmuffs

You use them to mow the lawn, but a pair of earmuffs work wonders for blocking out noise while you’re trying to study.

They also have signalling power. When you put them on, it signals to others (and your brain) that you are in work/study mode. When you take them off, you are free to play, rest, and do whatever you like.

10. Stick up a yearly planner

Having a yearly planner stuck up on your wall can help to create a sense of time awareness. You look up at the planner and you can see in one glance how much time you have between now and when a project is due or when an exam is scheduled.

11. Liven up your space with indoor plants

Indoor plants have been found to boost creativity. But certain types of indoor plants, such as English ivy and the Money plant, also purify the air.

You don’t need to create a jungle to experience the benefits of indoor plants. One or two plants in nice colourful pots is all you need to freshen up your space.

12. Get moving with an active work station

Have you considered working on your feet and incorporating some movement into your study sessions?

Active workstations, such as sit-stand desks, cycle desks, and treadmill desks, help to break the sedentary work cycle, get the blood pumping more efficiently up to your brain, and give you a cognitive boost.

Active workstations

13. Have easily accessible equipment for exercise snacks

If you prefer to stay seated while you study, that’s no problem. Just make sure you get up and move every 25-30 minutes. Take an exercise snack.

An exercise snack is a quick 30-60 second bout of exercise. I have a few small pieces of exercise equipment strategically placed in my study space to mix up my exercise snacks.

Depending on what you like to do and the space you have available, here are a few ideas:

• Kettlebell
• Dumbbells
• Resistance bands
• Skipping rope
• Gymstick
• Hula hoop

14. Surround yourself with a few inspiring pictures and/or quotes

If you feel good in your study space, you’re more likely to want to spend time there. One of the simplest ways to spruce up your space is with colourful and inspiring pictures.

Up on my walls is a colourful world map, a poster from a memorable comedy show I attended with my brother, and a framed piece of children’s artwork.

What do these things all have in common?

They make me feel good. And when I feel good, it’s easier to think, focus, and learn.

15. Roll out a yoga mat

After looking at a screen for 25 minutes or so, get down on a yoga mat and do some gentle stretches. If the mat is already rolled out on the floor, it’s a lot easier to get down and stretch your body.

16. Create a magic spot

This is a designated spot for all your school items (e.g., books, files, reference materials, unit outlines, practice exam papers, and notes). Need to find something to complete a project or study for a test? There’s only one place it can be: in the magic spot.

17. Install an Internet block app

When your work gets difficult, it’s too easy to escape to social media, YouTube, and Netflix. To stop yourself mindlessly checking these apps, activate an Internet blocker app such as Cold Turkey or Freedom.

18. Place a notepad and pen within arms’ reach

It’s not just Big Tech companies that can distract us. Often we distract ourselves with all kinds of random thoughts.

How do we handle these thoughts?

You can capture them in a notepad that’s strategically placed within arms’ reach. When a random thought strikes, write it down. You don’t have to act on every thought straight away.

Think of this notepad as your ‘Thought Inbox’. Once you’ve written the thought down, it’s not going anywhere. You can return your focus to the task at hand and deal with these thoughts at a later time.

19. Install an ad blocker plugin

Ads online are like advertising in public spaces: they constitute visual clutter. They also stir up consumptive desires and frequently throw you off course.

You can eliminate a lot of online ads by installing an adblocker plugin. I use Adblock Plus.

20. Set up a whiteboard, markers, and a cloth

When I’m feeling nervous about putting ideas down on paper, I go to my whiteboard. It’s less scary to jot down ideas on a whiteboard.

If it doesn’t work out, that’s okay. You can easily wipe it all away.

To sum up

Each of these strategies may not seem like much on their own. But when combined, they can have a big impact on your ability to focus, learn, and get things done.

Like anything in life, the key is not to get bogged down by a sense of overwhelm. You don’t need to make all of these changes all at once. Just get started with one or two.

A lot of people are struggling at the moment.

When many of us thought we’d be returning to a ‘normal’ existence this year, the reality has hit us hard: returning to ‘normal’ is not going to happen (at least not anytime soon).

Over the last few weeks, I’ve heard some self-help gurus and influencers make the following claims:

• “You are the creator of your own destiny”
• “You can do anything you put your mind to”
• “If you just visualise what you want, the universe will manifest it into being!”

Alarm bells go off for me whenever I hear these sorts of statements.

Yes, I somewhat agree. If you focus your mind, have clear goals, effective strategies and consistently engage in the right behaviours, you’ll be amazed by what you can achieve.

But I get a little annoyed when these ideas are presented in an overly simplistic way. What many self-help gurus and influencers fail to do is give people practical tools and evidence-based strategies that will help them to change their behaviour and reach their goals.

Without practical tools and strategies, we are setting people up to fail.

Stanford University Professor BJ Fogg states in his book Tiny Habits:

“For too many years, myths, misconceptions, and well-meaning but unscientific advice have set you up to fail. If you’ve attempted change in the past and haven’t seen results, you may have concluded that change is hard or that you can’t succeed because you lack motivation. Neither is accurate. The problem is with the approach itself, not with you.”

In this blog post, I’m going to share Professor BJ Fogg’s simple but powerful method for changing behaviour: tiny habits.

The power of going tiny

When life feels hard and you’re struggling to find the motivation to get through the day, you need to scale things right back.

How do you do that?

You need to make whatever you need to do seem really easy for your brain. This is where tiny habits come in.

What are tiny habits?

A tiny habit is a behavior that can be performed in less than 30 seconds and requires little or no willpower. The radically small behaviour sets you on a path to achieving your goals.

Tiny habits allow you to have a predetermined plan for each day. Without tiny habits, you can wear yourself out just deciding what to do. Tiny habits automate your behaviour and make it easy for you to get on with doing what you need to do.

Anatomy of a tiny habit

According to Professor BJ Fogg, a tiny habit is made up of three key parts:

• An anchor moment (i.e., prompt).
• A tiny version of a desired new behaviour.
• An instant celebration.

I’ll unpack each of these parts before bringing it all together with a few examples from my own life.

1. Anchor moment

Anchor moment

An anchor moment is a pre-existing habit that reminds you to carry out the new tiny behavior. Examples of common anchor moments include putting on your shoes, brushing your teeth, having dinner, checking your phone, and taking a shower.

Anchor moments are solid and reliable parts of your daily routine. You do them every day without fail. These routines act as a trigger for the new tiny behaviour, propelling you into action.

2. A tiny version of a new behaviour you want to do

Tiny version of desired behaviour

The tiny behaviour should require little to no effort or willpower to carry out. For example, if the desired behaviour is to floss your teeth, the tiny behaviour would be to floss one tooth. If you want to do more than the tiny version, go for it. But consider that’s a bonus extra. By carrying out the tiny behavior every day, you keep the habit alive and give it a chance to establish solid roots in your life.

3. Instant celebration

Instant celebration

If you want to fast track habit formation, you must do one simple thing — celebrate. Milliseconds after you engage in the new behaviour, you need to release a positive emotion. Instantly.

It’s this instant release of good feelings that will remind you to do the behaviour again in the future.

What does celebration look like? Here are some ideas from my own life:

• Do a fist pump.
• Say out loud “Shazam!”.
• Say “Winner winner chicken dinner!”.
• Drum a punchy beat on the table.

11 tiny habits for building resilience

The following is a list of tiny habits that help me to think, feel and function better. These tiny habits are focused around eating well, moving my body, getting plenty of rest, decreasing stress and managing my mindset.

1. After I make my bed, I will put on my walking shoes on.

2. After I have my breakfast, I will think of three things I feel grateful for.

3. After I put on my walking shoes, I will have a sip of water.

4. After I finish a writing session, I will take out a broccoli to chop.

5. When I arrive at a school, I will sanitise my hands and carefully put my mask on.

6. When I open up Zoom (or Teams) to deliver a presentation, I will take a deep breath and say “You can do this!”

7. After I set my intentions/goals for the day, I will put my phone away from my body (in another room).

8. When I find myself feeling overwhelmed, I will take out a post-it note and write down one thing I can do.

9. When my head hits the pillow, I will write down three things that went well today.

10. When I find myself feeling stressed, I will do a big sigh.

11. When I find myself feeling stuck, I will think “Who can I ask for help?”

How to create your own tiny habit recipes

These tiny habits are currently working for me. But they may not work for you. You can design your own tiny habits from scratch by pairing up anchor moments with desired tiny behaviours (don’t forget to celebrate!).

Alternatively, you can create your own tiny habit recipes by using the Tiny Habits Recipe Maker.

Tiny habit recipe maker

You can also check out Dr BJ Fogg’s great book Tiny Habits (there is a long list of tiny habits at the back of the book).

To sum up

Visualising what you want is never going to be enough to make it happen. You need to be in action. I’ve found the tiny habits method to be a great way to shift from inaction to action, especially during challenging times.

Like anything in life, using tiny habits requires practice. But the more you practice this skill, the better you’ll get. And the better you get, the better you’ll start to feel about yourself and what you’re doing.

It’s the start of a new school year.

With this usually comes shiny new pens, fresh notebooks and renewed hope and optimism. But this year feels a little different . . .

Last week I heard someone say:

“It’s only January but it feels like it’s the end of the year. I’m so over it.”

Can you relate?

In this blog post, I want to share with you a strategy I use to make difficult things easier to do. In other words, it’s a strategy that can make studying challenging subjects a little easier.

Unhelpful conversations I hear in schools

The other day I did my first job at a school. I’d been asked to run some study skills sessions with the senior school students.

Before I started running the workshops, I had a brief conversation with a year 11 student. It went something like this . . .

Me: How are you feeling given the situation (i.e. COVID-19)?

Year 11 Student: Some of us are stressed but it’s not because of COVID. It’s because of what our teachers have just said to us.

Me: What have your teachers been saying to you?

Year 11 Student: They keep saying this year is going to be really hard. The subjects are going to be much harder.

On my way home from the talk, I thought about what this student had said. I thought about the stressed look in her eyes.

This conversation reminded me of an awkward experience I had last year.

Here’s what happened . . .

I had been asked to present a talk to 150 year 10 students. My talk was scheduled for the last period of the school day.

In case you’re not aware, the last period of the school day is not an ideal time slot for a guest speaker. It’s usually a tough gig because students are tired and they just want to go home.

Students don’t hide how they feel at the end of the school day.

When I arrived at the venue to set up, I saw two teachers. I introduced myself to them. One of them said in an alarmed tone:

“Oh! You’re the guest speaker? I just need to warn you that these students are a horrible group. They do not warm to guest speakers!”

She continued on . . .

“Does your talk have a structure to it? Do you know what you’re talking about? These year 10s are a really hard group to work with!”

I felt my stress levels begin to rise and by accident, I knocked my glass of water off the stage and it broke. Glass went everywhere. Instead of helping me pick up the glass, the teacher said:

“Look! It’s a sign of things to come!”

At this point, the young IT guy arrived to help connect my laptop to the AV system. He overheard this teacher banging on about what a bunch of ratbags these students were. He looked kind of shocked. He said to her:

“Why are you saying this to our guest presenter? I don’t think it’s helpful.”

The teacher reacted defensively. She blurted out “She needs to know! It’s important we tell her!” and then she left.

I took some deep breaths and continued setting up my stuff.

What happened next may surprise you . . .

The students arrived.
I delivered the talk.
The talk went really well.

It turns out these students weren’t horrible at all. They were normal students who happened to be a bit tired and over it.

I learnt an important lesson that day: Worrying about how hard something is going to be doesn’t help. It just uses up your precious brainpower and energy that you could have spent doing something else (i.e. something more productive).

Whenever I focus on how hard something is going to be, I’m filled with fear. Imposter syndrome and self doubt kicks in (“Will I be able to do this? What if I fail and it turns out to be a total flop?”). This usually leads to a bad case of avoidance and procrastination.

In the book Make It Stick, Peter Brown explains:

“A fear of failure can poison learning by creating aversions to the kinds of experimentation and risk taking that characterize striving, or by diminishing performance under pressure, as in a test setting.”

If you feel worried that you’re not going to be able to perform well in a subject, this is going to use up a big part of your working memory capacity. Instead of thinking about the content, you’ll be thinking, “Am I going to be able to do this? What if I can’t? Should I drop the subject?”.

In short, you’ll have less brainpower to learn in class.

What makes a difference?

There’s a simple question I ask myself when something feels really hard. And it’s this . . .

How can I make this behaviour easier to do?

Professor BJ Fogg calls this the Breakthrough Question. According to Fogg there are three ways you can make any behaviour easier to do:

1. You can increase your skills
2. Get tools and resources
3. Make the behaviour tiny

Tiny habits

In his book Tiny Habits he explains:

“Regardless of what your aspiration is, increasing your skills, getting tools and resources, and making the behaviour tiny are what makes things easier to do. . .

Sometimes all you’ll need is the right tool to make a new habit easier to do, like using skinny floss [for flossing teeth], and other times all you have to do is scale the behaviour back to its tiniest version, such as flossing just one tooth. Think of making something easy to do as a pond with three different ways to enter the water. Whether you jump off the dock, wade in at the beach, or drop in from a rope swing, you’ll soon be swimming in the same water.”

In other words, you have plenty of options!

There are lots of things you can do to make studying those so called ‘hard’ subjects a little easier.

So with that in mind, here is a short list of ideas to get you kick-started:

1. Heal your attention

If you can focus better, you can learn and retain more information. If you find yourself constantly checking your phone, put it on silent and away from your body before you sit down to study.

2. Upgrade your study skills

Strategies such as active recall (e.g. flash cards) and dual coding (e.g. mind mapping) are way more effective than rereading and highlighting your notes. Like any new skill, they take a little bit of time to get used to, but they’ll save you a lot of time in the long run.

3. Try a different textbook

Some textbooks explain ideas better than others. The textbook on your school booklist is not the only one (or necessarily the best one) out there, so don’t feel wedded to it. Check out other study guides and resources.

4. Build good sleep habits

A good night’s sleep allows you to focus better in class, retain more information and feel better. Make sleep your top priority.

5. Ask questions

If you’re confused, don’t suffer in silence. Ask your teacher for help. That’s their job.

6. Take notes in class

Make life easier for your future self by jotting down key ideas in class. If something is confusing, make a note (you can focus on that in a study session at home).

7. Keep chaos at bay

Create some kind of system to organise your notes, past exam papers and handout sheets. Over time, you may need to tweak and refine your system but that’s okay (I’ve been tweaking and refining my system for years).

8. Make your study sessions tiny

If you feel overwhelmed by the idea of doing several hours of study each day, start with just five minutes. Five minutes of study is infinitely better than doing nothing!

Once you’ve developed the habit of sitting down and studying for 5 minutes, you can ramp it up. But start small.

9. Celebrate the little wins

When you do manage to sit down and do a little study, congratulate yourself. Say to yourself, “Good job!” This positive reinforcement makes us feel good and when we feel good, it helps wire in new habits.

To sum up

When your teachers says, “This subject is going to be really hard”, what I think they’re trying to communicate to you is “You need to actually sit down and study. You can no longer wing it.” Instead of worrying, simply be in action.

You’ll feel better and do better if you focus on doing the things that make studying that subject a little easier.